Once a cheat always a cheat?
- Has it happened to you?
- Did you cheat on a partner?
- Has cheating ended one of your relationships?
Here are some reactions I have received & my thoughts to them
Graham, I cheated on my wife with her best friend. To this day I don’t know how it happened, but it ruined a marriage & a friendship.
GT: Oh dear… learnt the hard way did you? I can’t understand why you say you don’t know how it happened. It happened because you gave in to temptation. Did you think you were not going to get found out? Get real – If you loved your wife you should have not got into that situation in the first place.
Graham- My wife got off with one of her work colleagues at a Christmas party, she did own up to it & I forgave her. It still plays on my mind though & whenever we get into an argument I always bring it up.
GT: Admirable to forgive her, but you need to let it lie now otherwise you will always chew yourself up over it. I hope you can talk to her about the things that are still on your mind about what happened – Then if you are clear about the answers it’s time to draw a line under it & move on.
GT – My husband cheated on me 3 times. I should’ve never let him off the first time. Once a cheat always a cheat. He is no longer my husband.
GT: I’m guessing you forgave him more than once because you loved him. It does hurt doesn’t it, that someone you love can do such a thing to you? Well done for moving on. Just remember not all men are the same.
So, In Summary…
I don’t agree with the statement “Once a cheat always a cheat”. I want to make it clear I DO NOT agree with people that cheat on their partners – But I do believe if everyone owns up & works through the issues you can get back on to great relationship terms. You have to draw a line under it though & move on. Harping back on it will only open old wounds.
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